Got a fab haircut from a new friend last week--Robin Hearts-Love--and she made an observation that I feel applies to life.
Hmmm? I replied.
Your part. Is that the way it usually falls--or is your hair just doing its own thing today?
This is going to sound bizarre--but I wasn't conscious of the natural part in my hair. In fact, I parted it on the other side (when I'm actually parting).
I know, right? Duh.
I stammered. Um, I'm not sure. (In my defense, I was in a total brain fog all weekend).
She said Your life will be a lot easier if you go with your natural part.
And so I did. And shall.
What does this have to do with life?
It occurred to me that our "natural part" is the way we bend--organically.
It's our strengths, our interests, our preferences. It what intrigues us, keeps our attention.
Some--teachers, parents, mentors well-meaning life coaches--have advised us to work our asses off to build up our weaknesses.
In some cases, this is sound advice.
For example, if you want to lead workshops or host webinars and the very idea of speaking in public freaks you out, Toastmasters or voice lessons can really help you with both technique and confidence.
But for the most part, trying to bolster supposed weaknesses (i.e. an area in which you lack natural aptitude or interest) is time better spent identifying your strengths and maximizing them.
For example, I hate numbers. I don't even memorize phone numbers if I can help it. So, I'm not going to perform long division or multiplication problems to "help" my aversion towards math (shudder). I have a calculator, thankyouverymuch.
As an entrepreneur, time is money. I can choose to teach myself to make digital graphics, create a website or format a self-published book. Or, I can outsource these tasks to someone who's really good at it.
It depends on what you value--and how much control you want to retain.
But for the most part, I think going with our natural part not only makes life easier, but also provides a great foundation for expanding beyond our comfort zones in a (relatively) painless way towards the best "us" we can be.
What do you think, dear readers? Weigh in at the comments below!